“For God, For Country and For Men”: A Yale Alumna Speaks Out

When incoming freshmen enter their Yale dorm room for the first time, they encounter a blue banner with white lettering that reads, “For God, For Country and For Yale.”

Initially this banner strikes many–including my freshman self four years ago–as outdated and overly earnest. But allegiance to Yale ends up sticking with many students and graduates, preventing us from seeing any flaws and, most problematically, from speaking out against the school. At least that has been my experience–until this last week.

In light of the current controversy over the fraternity DKE and their recent initiation activities–which included a crowd of men parading around the freshman housing quad shouting, “No means yes and yes means anal”–I wanted to follow up Michael Kimmel’s insightful Ms. Blog post with my hopes for an eventual positive outcome to this dismaying event.

First, an update: As if Yale wanted to dig itself deeper into its hole of offensive language, the school’s most prominent newspaper, the Yale Daily News, published an editorial by the staff entitled “The Right Kind of Feminism.” Rather than offer an opinion on the news story itself, it focused on the faults and radical nature of the campus Women’s Center and engaged in classic victim-blaming. Presumably written by the paper’s two men opinion editors, the article included such gems as:

In recent years, the radicalizing echo chamber of the Center has failed to represent the broader spectrum of women on campus after acts of public misogyny. While the Center spent their time painting murals of their own vaginas, the rest of women were left without a public voice.

As the Center responded with histrionics, what could have been an opportunity for our campus to maturely and gracefully reprove public stupidity and affirm mutual respect turned into a daylong, private spat.

And, my personal favorite:

Feminists at Yale should remember that, on a campus as progressive as ours, most of their battles are already won: All of us agree on gender equality.

Really? Beyond the message itself–which condemns the Women’s Center for their “radical” “overreaction” and patronizingly reassures feminists that our fight is over–the article is imbued with gendered language. While women responded with “histrionics,” DKE men are simply “boisterous,” “impressionable,” “foolhardy” and “young.” To hear the Yale Daily News tell it, these DKE men are no more than well-intentioned but foolish children at the mercy of angry, aggressive and irrational mother figures–i.e., the Women’s Center.

Subsequently, the Yale Daily News published a slew of additional articles, including a halfhearted clarification, an excellent op-ed from a woman student and a graceful response from the (male) student body president. There is also a petition circulating that urges university Yale president Richard Levin to publicly denounce DKE’s actions. I  urge anyone affiliated with the school (currently signatories are limited to current students, alumni, parents of students or alumni, or faculty or staff members) to sign.

As I was signing, I realized that something positive could come out of this entire incident. This is the first time in a long time that so many diverse voices are engaging the issue of gender on campus. While the Women’s Center has been quick to respond to acts of misogyny in recent years (such as the “We Love Yale Sluts” incident), the remainder of students, alumni and administrators have, by and large, remained silent–seeking comfort under the banner of allegiance and history. But too much of this history relies on the unspoken assumption that “boys will be boys.” While in much of the country this mantra is now an excuse, at Yale it remains a tradition.

It’s time for this tradition to change, and the administration should lead this shift. Administrators such as Melanie Boyd, special advisor to the Dean of Yale College on gender issues, are already working to improve the campus culture for both men and women students, but they need more official support. Even the Delta Kappa Epsilon International Fraternity Board of Directors has reprimanded Yale’s chapter, telling them to temporarily cease all pledge activities, including accepting new pledges. When an international fraternity organization publicly recognizes an incident and takes disciplinary action, it’s clearly time for the university’s administration to do the same.

I urge President Levin to speak out against DKE’s actions. If you’d like to encourage him as well, here’s how to contact his office:

President’s Office
Yale University
PO BOX 208229
New Haven, CT  06520-8229

Email: richard.levin@yale.edu, presidents.office@yale.edu
Telephone: (203) 432-2550

Photo of Yale gateway, above which is inscribed “For God, For Country and For Yale,” from Flickr user Poldavo under Creative Commons 2.0.


  1. Beautiful article, well said. For another Yale woman's reaction, see also http://ivoryoutrage.blogspot.com/ (it's not me, I'm just a fan!).

  2. Yale makes Presidents? Yale makes me sick! No wonder the "good old boy" network is running our country! "The wrong kind of feminism"? Who made you God? Oh, that's right – your parents and the "rules" at Yale (wink, wink!)

  3. Really well written Laura. The whole incident is sickening.. not the first of its kind of course but if this one gets brushed under the rug with so much as even a slap on the wrist, women on campus might lose another inch of safety. Victim-blaming at its best.

  4. This is the comment the Special Advisor the Dean of Yale College on Gender Studies personally posted on the YDN site, it's a good start:

    "How disappointing. The YDN editors should know better than most how hard the Women's Center has worked over the past few days to shape a productive conversation about this incident. And the results of their efforts have been most impressive: both at the Forum on Friday and beyond, they have initiated active problem-solving among students, faculty, and administrators. I've been thrilled to see new coalitions forming as we all attempt to grapple with serious, long-running campus issues—no-one expects them to be resolved by a single one-hour discussion. Luckily, the Women's Center's leadership over the past few days is not the aberration the editors make it out to be. We can rely on the Center and its allies to continue to help us all intervene in the persistent patterns of sexual violence and misconduct at Yale.
    — Melanie Boyd, Special Advisor to the Dean of Yale College on Gender Issues"

  5. How about some chanting in the vein of "Castrate all the DKE men! Split their dicks! Hurt their pricks!" Because , gosh, guys, get a sense of humor, willya? After all, castration is just as "funny" as rape is.

  6. Except the first sentence is complete BS…why make something as trivial as that up?

  7. Bob Musil says:

    I was disturbed to learn details of the DKE hazing that included deeply offensive actions toward women on Old Campus. I have Yale ancestors since the first Yale professor, Daniel Hooker (a tutor with President Pierson). My grandfather and great-grandfather were DKE's, but would have been appalled by the threatening, boorish behavior of the current crowd. I have hopes that my granddaughter will go to Yale, but if the current climate persists, I will work to ensure that she does not.

    My recommendation to President Levin is that DKE be closed along with the few remaining other Greek leftovers. And, of course, that deeply misogynist behavior be penalized severely.


    Robert Kirkland Musil, Yale '64

  8. I was in the 20th class of women to graduate, in 1990, and when I entered Yale, the male/female ratio of my class was 60/40. It’s much more balanced now. The “For God, For Country and for Yale” sign was in many a dorm room, as it is today. Even decades ago, most Yalies could figure out that it was partly an expression of pride in Yale, and partially a tongue in cheek pledge of allegiance. There is a dictionary that uses “For God, For Country and for Yale” as an example of a letdown. Most people see that Yale, whether they believe in God or not, understand that Yale, however exalted, does not rise to the level of God. Most Yalies seem to see the humor in it the expression, its quaintness. Many of the young women in my dorm tacked on their walls with pride and a sense of ownership of the place and its tradition. I went back to campus last year. The student body appeared more diverse and gender-balanced than ever. I didn’t feel oppressed as a woman at Yale. Sorry to hear this writer did. But I really felt that the campus, as a whole, wanted me to flourish. When I talked to Yale women of today, they seemed to be able to distinguish the general character of the place from incidents of misogny.

Speak Your Mind


Error, no Ad ID set! Check your syntax!