Do We Hail Yale, Or Are The Men There Just (Bull)Dogs?

Last fall, the nation was shocked to learn that frat guys at Yale were parading around campus chanting “No means yes! Yes means anal!” Even more shocking was an apparent pattern of such ritual marches, a pattern that included a rally in front of the campus women’s center with a poster that read “We Love Yale Sluts” (among other things, the Women’s Center offers support to women who have been sexually assaulted). Nice, huh?

Equally shocked was Yale’s administration, which responded by soundly condemning these behaviors and reiterating the university’s commitment to zero tolerance for them. And now comes the revelation that the Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights is investigating a complaint filed by 16 students and recent graduates that seeks to hold the university liable for violating Title IX–specifically the provision that the university failed to eliminate a hostile environment that makes it impossible for women to receive an equal education.

Even Vice President Joe Biden has weighed in. Without mentioning Yale specifically, he urged colleges to do more to prevent sexual assault, and insist that “no means no.”

Why exactly were we so shocked by this incident–haven’t we heard all this before? It’s not like Yale is all that any different from any other college or university in America. It’s just that as one of the most prestigious universities in the world–where public reverence is often so high that one feels a need to inhale slightly before uttering the school’s name–we may expect more from its students. We expect more decorum, more respect for fellow students. We notice what happens at Yale, and that “matters” in some larger public sense, perhaps more than the attitudes or experiences at other campuses.

“I don’t think that the sexual culture is worse here than it is at other places,” one student told The New York Times. But do you think that Vice President Biden would have spoken out had the complaint been filed against, say, SUNY at Stony Brook, where I happen to teach? Unlikely. I think we expect America’s brightest young men to also be among its most responsible. Or at least we expect the sons of the wealthiest and most privileged Americans to exhibit a little more genteel decorum in their relations with the opposite sex.

To their credit, most Yale students responded with disgust and outrage at the behavior of these guys. There’s been plenty of campus organizing, lots of campus discussions, and even the occasional thesis topic. 

But some have missed the point entirely, dismissing the chanting as just a stupid joke or a harmless initiation ritual. (Remember that Delta Kappa Epsilon, the fraternity that required these marches and chanting, was the same one that was exposed for branding its students in the late 1960s–a practice defended by the fraternity’s then-president, George W. Bush.)  Sometimes the brightest are not also the best or the most honorable.

If Yale’s no better than anywhere else, is it possible that it’s actually worse?  Not likely, though those same best-and-brightest may also feel pretty darned entitled. They sense that the cushion of privilege that surrounds them–their family’s class and race, their elite educational institution–is also a protective bubble.  The university’s typical way of handling these issues as “internal matters” confirms that sense. Said the student cited above,

The fact that we seem, to have one incendiary misogynistic act a year seems to say that the university isn’t being punitive enough against these large-scale activities.

True enough. What happens at Yale stays at Yale.

Another question arises when considering this incident: What about free speech? The guys didn’t physically assault anyone; all they did was chant vile slogans and hold up banners. Isn’t that protected? Didn’t the Supreme Court just hold that even Fred Phelps and his heinous minions had the right to chant incendiary things at a military funeral? Free speech extends to the most despicable of utterances.

But doesn’t that set the bar sort of low?

Besides, there are contradictory precedents, and some notions of free speech are at loggerheads with notions of hate speech, which is not protected. A more apt case might be the Court’s findings in a 2003 case, Virginia v. Black. In that case, the Court’s majority found that because cross-burning had a history as a “particularly virulent form of intimidation,” Virginia could prohibit that form of expression while not prohibiting other types of intimidating expression.  Even Justice Clarence Thomas argued that cross-burning is conduct, not expression, and therefore its suppression does not raise serious First Amendment issues. When it’s intended to arouse fear, speech may be more than speech: It’s behavior.

And that behavior creates a hostile environment on a college campus–one that cannot be remedied by better lighting, campus escorts from libraries, etc. Rather, it’s an educational equality issue: A hostile environment compromises women’s education.  These actions are the gender equivalent of cross burnings and nooses tied to tree limbs; they’re not harmless pranks.

So why would we disallow obviously racist speech that is intended to intimidate and injure, but not sexist speech clearly intended to intimidate and injure?

The current Title IX investigation gets media ink because it’s Yale, and perhaps because the complaining students believe that the incident’s shock value can burst the bubble of entitlement and disturb institutional complacency. But such a flash in the pan, however mediagenic, can also displace or mute the sloggingly hard work in which many at Yale have been engaged for some time.

This is a complex cultural issue, an issue that requires sustained institutional commitment as well as flashes of outrage.  It’s not only about protecting vulnerable women and punishing misogynist creeps; it’s about changing campus culture. It’s about empowering women and eroding that false sense of entitlement among some men.

Neither Yale nor any other college will eliminate this hostile environment until they address the attitudes expressed that make that environment unsafe.  Will Yale disturb the soil in which such attitudes germinate and grow?  Will the university create a hostile environment for those who make the campus unsafe for women?   Will it refuse to tolerate intolerance?

Other college guys get it.  As I did the research for my book, Guyland, I was constantly impressed by groups of men on campuses who are doing something about it, breaking that silence, challenging that bubble of entitlement that surrounds and shields the few whose actions so taint the many.  Last year, for example, I delivered the annual Sexual Assault Awareness Week lecture at Harvard and met with Harvard Men Against Rape, a campus group that included members of fraternities, finals clubs and the football team.  I hear regularly from groups of men on campuses around the country, like A Men’s Issue at Syracuse, Tufts  Collective for Men Against Violence, The Men’s Initiative at St. Norbert College and even reformist fraternities–just regular guys who are mobilizing to engage men against violence, assault and rape.

So where are Yale’s men?  (Yale Men Against Rape has been defunct for some time.)  In the immediate aftermath of that disgusting outburst, the President of the Yale College Council exhorted other Yale men to break that silence. So? Where are the voices of the legions of men who find the behavior of the few so repugnant that they feel a moral urgency to speak out?  Without breaking that silence and standing with their female classmates, the men of Yale are tainted by that same toxic brush. It makes the scene look polarized by gender–outraged women and complacent men–rather than outraged students and a few perpetrators.

“Bulldog, Bulldog, Bow Wow Wow,” begins the Yale fight song (penned, by the way, by Cole Porter, Class of 1913): “When the Sons of Eli break though the line, that is the sign we hail.”  Well, when these current sons of Eli break through that silence–the silence of the many that enables the few–that will be the time we hail.

Image from Wikimedia Commons


  1. michelekort says:

    good job!

  2. This article could not have come at a better time. Our campus is facing a similar issue with a “newspaper” called The Koala. It is published by students under the guise of humor, but in reality it is promoting misogyny, date rape and racism; and that’s on a good day. Many students, mostly women, who live in the dorms where the “koalans” reside have expressed anxiety and fear in the face of the climate the paper has created. Our administration is hiding behind free speech rhetoric to ignore the pleas of students. Campus police even told students protesting the paper at the latest distribution that they, not the “nice guys” publishing it, are the problem. We have been brainstorming what to do about this and your post has helped. A Title IX suit just may do the trick. Thanks!

  3. Bravo. I couldn’t agree more with the comparison drawn between the hate behavior of cross burning and racist speech and this anti-woman, violence-inciting speech-cum-behavior of these men at Yale [and every other institution anywhere]. The idea that a student can protest, say, outside a performance of the Vagina Monologues exhorting women to modesty and be protected for engaging in ‘free speech’ when it is clear that a protester is threatening women who do NOT hew to his standard of ‘modesty’ is disgusting, and it happens on campuses all the time. Columns published in student newspapers get chuckled at, the disgusting fraternity situation at USC, and so many more show that universities hoping to avoid suits like the one Yale is facing had better get their act together when it comes to the overtly hostile environment their female students navigate every day.

  4. This kind of thing has been going on when I was in college back in the early 1990’s. The “feminazi” comments and other BS, unfortunately, have ben a chronic problem for as long as I can remember. I know a couple men who hung up a sheet sign that said “Take Back the Night – Don’t Start a Fight!” in response to our college’s Take Back the Night event one year. One of the perpetrators was complaining high and low when some of the female students made calls threatening him. All I have to say to this douche-bag is “Welcome to our world.” Luckily, karma got this guy when he was accused of raping one of the students. He was banned from visiting the campus while his case was being resolved and he was plagued with all kind of legal problems. As long as men (and I hate to say it, women) keep perpetuating the covert and overt sexism, this kind of thing will stick with us like herpes.

  5. A couple months ago, I wrote about this in our college newspaper under the heading “Are Fraternities Still Relevant?”

    Though I did not say anything that I could not back up with facts, and though I did not specifically mention my own school’s fraternities, the outrage was unbelievable. Even though both of my (male) editors were not in a fraternity and both approved the article well in advance, neither of them ever came to my defense during the outrage. I learned very quickly that I would have to cover my own ass working for these guys–but also that I started a dialogue about a subject that was formerly very silent–fraternities being lenient on sexual assault.

  6. The facts in this case seem to be a little distorted. The author says, “I hear regularly from groups of men on campuses around the country, like A Men’s Issue at Syracuse, Tufts Collective for Men Against Violence, The Men’s Initiative at St. Norbert College and even reformist fraternities–just regular guys who are mobilizing to engage men against violence, assault and rape. So where are Yale’s men? (Yale Men Against Rape has been defunct for some time.)”

    Tufts’ MAV hasn’t been active since 2002, according to the website; Yale’s MAV has been active at least since 2009 (

    The distortion of facts to fit the author’s point is really quite startling.

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