Weiner, Vitter, Spitzer, Ensign, Edwards, Tobias: One of These Is Not Like the Others

Watching the press conference held by Congressman Anthony Weiner (D-N.Y.) yesterday, my first reaction was, “What is it with these male politicians who think with their dicks and think the rest of us just fell off the turnip truck?” And a half hour into it, my second thought was, “Oy vey, please stop talking already.”

I also knew that Weiner’s actions would automatically be compared to those of other “fallen from grace” male politicians who did naughty things and tried to hide them.

But Weiner’s case is vastly different from these other guys, and here’s why.

Weiner, a recently married man, sent photos of himself in various stages of dress or undress through Twitter and other media to women in various places. His sexual preferences appear to tend toward the voyeuristic and, he claims, his wife knew about them.

Is it dumb and poor personal judgment for a politician to send photos of himself in various stages of undress and arousal to women who are not his wife? In my opinion, yes. Is it my business? Not really, unless he has, for example, been railing against “sexting,” faulting women, contraception, abortion, and gay people with the downfall of America and earthquakes in far-off places, or has been seeking to restrict people’s rights based on a bastardized version of morality. Is it even dumber to go on an “I-did-not-send-pictures-to-[that]-woman” pity tour to make himself look like the victim of hacking? Oh, yeah. He may yet be forced to resign for his stupidity.

But, I don’t necessarily think he should have to do so. As I have said here before, I really do not care in what sexual practices consenting adults engage or what agreements are forged between two consenting adults, especially if the spouse of a given Twitterer knows about and lives with her or his spouse’s preferences.

What I do care about is the “holier-than-thou” moralizing in which so many of these philanderers engage, and the fact that they both pretend to be better than the rest of us, and, even worse, attempt to legislate our private lives.

Weiner did none of this.

The others did.

Former New York Governor Eliot Spitzer (D-N.Y.) waged a war against sex workers, while simultaneously paying for their services and travel across state lines. Two no-nos. He broke the law he was supposedly fighting to enforce, a law based on views about sex work that are arcane, not based on evidence, and moralistic to say the least. He used women’s lives to advance his political career.

Senator David Vitter (R-La.) is a proponent of some of the most egregiously misogynistic laws and policies being proposed and enacted and is a member of the fundamentalist religious right which, it appears to me, is fundamentally based on “do unto others what you tell them not to do themselves.” Vitter seeks to deny women access to every form of reproductive health care, for example, while merrily screwing around outside his marriage. And he is a member of that august group that likes to expound on the “danger to the American Family” of recognizing gay, lesbian and transgender persons as human beings with human rights.

Senator John Ensign (R-Nev.) is a member of the C Street tribe and not only a moralizing legislator but is alleged to have used campaign funds to pay off his mistress’ family. As far as the rest of Ensign’s hypocrisy, see Vitter, David, above.

Former Senator John Edwards (D-N.C.) played the happy family man while hiding his honey and their love child and also is now charged with using campaign funds inappropriately. It’s the latter part, and his denials of such during a Presidential campaign that takes it out of the realm of what was going on between him and the now-deceased Elizabeth Edwards and into the public realm of judgment.

Ambassador Randall Tobias vociferously promoted policies–abstinence-only until marriage, the prostitution pledge–that endangered the lives of countless women in the poorest settings throughout the world. And then he had his “masseuse.”

Weiner may have used his digital camera in what many consider an inappropriate manner, and, yes, he lied about it, which was unbelievably stupid but also human. But unless and until he is found telling me and others how to live our private lives and unless and until we find out that digital camera was paid for by campaign funds, the Twitter-pix problem is between Weiner and his wife.

This post originally appeared at RH Reality Check.

Above: Rep. Weiner at the 2009 Gay Pride festival in New York City, courtesy of Flickr user Boss Tweed, under CC 2.0.


  1. Chelsea says:

    Honestly, the biggest problem I had with this scandal is that he lied about the photos being of himself. That hurts his credibility as a Representative and so hurts his constituents. This may lead him to him not being re-elected, and so we lose a powerful and intelligent champion.

    I was also kinda upset that I didn’t get to see the pics and I am a bit jealous of the girls he was flirting with. No problem with extra marital fun-time, like you said that’s between him and his wife.

  2. My only problem, from what we know so far, is that it’s ‘conduct unbecoming’ and he may have used Congressional resources for some of this.

    And if it turns out any of these women weren’t consenting, I’ll be pissed, but that doesn’t appear to be the case.

  3. Thank you for pointing out *why* these particular politicians were in the wrong, other than their “moral failure” in their marriages. Eliot Spitzer, in particular pisses me off.

  4. Tom Scruggs says:

    That’s exactly what I have been saying since it happened! And for heaven’s sakes, he didn’t even meet the women. I do wish he hadn’t lied about it to the public. But regardless, Weiner has had the guts to challenge others when everyone seems to just sit down and shut up. He sticks up for what’s right in this country and we need more like him. It would be a terrible loss if he were to resign.

  5. I have to agree with this article. He got caught doing something stupid and embarrassing publicly, then lied about. I can’t get too upset about it except maybe the lying part (which most people will do to stay out of trouble). I suppose I might be bothered if the pictures were sent without consent which might be stretched to be called harassment.

  6. Mari H. says:

    So he didn’t preach prior~still doesn’t excuse his behavior!

  7. I am pissed that Pelosi pressed for his resignation. Here was somebody who had stood up for the values we were all supposed to fight for.

    And instead of letting him keep his seat (like the ‘bad guys’!) he was pressured into resigning. His own constituents did not have a problem with the consensual adult behavior. Weiner should have been allowed to work it out with his family.

    We have a problem if Pelosi…etc is allowed to pick off elected officials personally not liked. What will this mean down the road when we are trying to pass legislation which we want?

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