On Passing, the Performance of Blackness and the Rachel Dolezals I Know


I am not a stranger to Rachel Dolezal. In fact, I’ve met many like her in my own life. “I never liked the white man’s music,” one of my boyfriends once said to me. He continued, “For years I kept convincing my ex-girlfriend that the both of us would be able to produce a black […]

My Hair, My Self

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A few weeks ago, I went with my friend Stacey to pick up her daughter from school. As my friend’s daughter, Elizabeth, and two of her friends, Sarah and Lydia, piled into the backseat, Stacey told her daughter that the stuff they’d ordered for her hair had come in the mail. Elizabeth excitedly opened the […]

Use Hair Extensions, Get a Man?

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In TV Guide Network’s Reality Chat, one of the hosts asks Bravo TV’s The Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger, I love how honest you are. Do any of these women ever talk back and say, ‘Excuse me, but I’m an Amazon, or ‘I don’t want to put in hair extensions’? What do you say to them? Without […]