Silenced by the Pain of a Tumultuous Life

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. The Ms. Blog will be publishing a series of posts detailing the impact of domestic violence, including personal essays and more, throughout the month. In 2011, I was released from prison after serving more than two decades―I am finally free! However, freedom isn’t free. Every day, in small ways, I am […]

Police Wife: The Secret Epidemic of Police Domestic Violence

Domestic violence takes place in up to a staggering 40 percent of law enforcement families, but police departments mostly ignore the problem or let it slide, write ex-police wife Susanna Hope and award-winning investigative journalist Alex Roslin in their new book, Police Wife: The Secret Epidemic of Police Domestic Violence. The following excerpt is adapted […]

Pregnant Behind Bars: How Expectant Mothers’ Lives are Under Threat

Imagine being pregnant and hungry. Always hungry. Now imagine being hungry and locked in a room, unable to access food, for eight to 12 hours. Imagine opening a carton of milk and being hit in the face with a rancid smell that makes your stomach turn. Now imagine that that is the only carton of […]

Listening to Domestic Violence Through a Wall

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. The Ms. Blog will be publishing a series of posts detailing the impact of domestic violence, including personal essays and more, throughout the month. “Bitch, I’m gonna kill you!” he yelled, so loudly that it woke us up in the apartment next door. There were no more words after that. The […]

An Evening in May

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. The Ms. Blog will be publishing a series of posts detailing the impact of domestic violence, including personal essays and more, throughout the month. In the midst of an argument, I see the glass fly through the air at 24 frames a second. While sitting on our bed, my vision slows, […]

Lady Gaga Takes On Campus Rape in New Music Video

What do Lady Gaga, President Obama, and the head of Harvard University have in common? They’re all speaking out to stop sexual assault—and not a moment too soon. The headlines call attention to the problem on college campuses: “Survey: More than 1 in 5 female undergrads at top schools suffer sexual attacks.” It’s important to […]

Keeping Domestic Violence Survivors Safe

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. The Ms. Blog will be publishing a series of posts detailing the impact of domestic violence, including personal essays and more, throughout the month. The impact of gun violence on victims and survivors of domestic violence cannot be overstated. The statistics are chilling: Approximately 2 out of every 3 domestic violence […]

Domestic Violence Survivor Jailed for Failing to “Protect her Children” from Abuser

Domestic abuse survivor Tondalo Hall has spent the last decade behind bars in a McLoud, Oklahoma prison for “failing to protect” her children from a violent partner. Robert Braxton, Jr. was arrested in 2004 for breaking the ribs and femur of the couple’s daughter, who was 3 months old at the time. He was sentenced to 10 […]

New Study Reveals Scary Consequence of Catcalling

As if catcalling wasn’t bad enough, a new study has found that women who feel objectified may be more likely to become victims of sexual assault. The study, published recently in Psychology of Violence, found that many women who feel objectified begin to obsessively monitor their looks from an outsider’s perspective. That can lead to decreased sexual assertiveness and a higher risk […]

How to Talk to Kids About Sex and Consent

In the wake of the St. Paul’s School verdict, I want to talk about rape and responsibility. Rape is not new. Our reaction to it, though, has been evolving. In the last few years, we’ve seen a meaningful shift in the way sexual assault is discussed. That hasn’t happened on its own; the changes are […]