What Bill Cosby and the University of Virginia Can Teach Us

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As accusations of sexual assault against Bill Cosby mount, students, faculty and staff of the University of Virginia, meanwhile, are adding their names to a petition addressed to the college’s president, demanding that campus organizations be held accountable for sexual violence. Both cases have gained a significant amount of media attention recently for allegations that […]

We Need to Talk About Sexual Violence

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Reprinted with permission from Old Gold & Black TRIGGER WARNING: Some of the content in this column may contain triggers for individuals who have experienced various forms of sexual assault. Read at your own discretion. Rape has become normalized in college culture. It’s normal to wake up in a fellow student’s bed and not remember […]

Why I Created Bye Felipe

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I created the Instagram account @byefelipe three weeks ago in order to compile harassing and hostile messages men send to women after being rejected or ignored. Since creating Bye Felipe, it has become apparent that a standard trajectory of discourse with men online is this: Man hits on woman, woman rejects or ignores him, man […]

Federal Judge Faces Wife-Beating Charges; Refuses to Step Down

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A federal judge in Alabama was arrested in August after his wife called 911 to report domestic violence. On the 911 tape, Kelli Fuller, wife of Judge Mark Fuller, says, “Help me, please. Please help me. He’s beating on me,” while the sounds of one person striking another can be heard in the background. Judge […]

The Women in This Room

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I am not like the women in this room. There are hundreds of them, plastered to the walls of the Korean Cultural Center in the mid-city neighborhood of Los Angeles. Some are as large as ostrich eggs; others are petite and demure. They announce themselves in shimmering metallics and matte pastels; uneven clumps of glitter […]

Why Outing the Domestic Violence Survivor — and Her Abuser — Might Just Save Lives

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[TRIGGER WARNING: Discussion of domestic violence] I’m outing myself. It’s not an easy thing to do, out yourself. I’ve kept a lot of my story secret for many years, for many reasons. Reflecting on my life with my abuser, I now realize I minimized the conflicts, marginalized the incidents, telling myself I was making more […]

President Obama: “It’s On Us” to Prevent Campus Rape

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In a further attempt to bring campus sexual assault into the national conversation, President Obama launched the It’s On Us campaign Friday, a national public service campaign that urges college students to combat sexual assault on their campuses. Calling for a “fundamental shift in our culture,” Obama, joined by Vice President Biden in the East Room […]

Of Ray Rice and Aunt Gracie’s Black Eyes

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TRIGGER WARNING: VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN My Aunt Gracie is one of my mother’s 10 sisters, the one with the gentle half smile. She’s always been a favored sister and aunt, beloved in our family for her sweetness and generosity and her quiet, seemingly eternal good nature. But sealed in my mind’s eye is an image […]

Will the NFL Ever Get it Right About Violence?

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TRIGGER WARNING: VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN. Today, the Baltimore Ravens professional football team terminated the contract of running back Ray Rice. Soon after, he was suspended indefinitely by the National Football League (NFL). We would be cheering heartily for these actions—because Rice punched out his soon-to-be-wife, and such off-the-field violence should have serious consequences. But we’re […]

When 9-1-1 Can’t Find You: How Wireless Providers Can Save Women’s Lives

Last month, Michelle Miers was shot and stabbed at her home by an attacker. Still breathing but in need of urgent medical care, she picked up her cellphone and dialed 9-1-1. Like most Americans, Miers probably presumed that calling 9-1-1 guaranteed help was on the way. For the 26-year-old mother of two, however, help would come too […]