365 Take-Our-Daughters-and-Sons-to-Work Days


A few months ago I was scrolling through audio files of interviews on my computer when I was startled to hear the recorded cooing of my daughter when she was a baby. I had been hiking through dry arroyos in the desert west of Albuquerque with a biologist who was studying the decline of burrowing […]

Click! Everything I Needed To Know I Learned in Kindergarten


I was 5 years old when I first had that sensation that comes from your gut when you know something isn’t right. Not a feeling of danger, but of righteous anger at injustice. It comes from deep inside, where instinct resides. There I was, in my mud-stained jeans and forever-disheveled hair, playing in the kindergarten […]

Gay Marriage Helps Families


Sen. Dianne Feinstein (D-Calif.) has introduced a bill that would repeal the federal Defense of Marriage Act, which bans same-sex marriage. It would also give married gay couples the same federal benefits as straight couples. We’ll likely hear the usual response from the DOMA crowd: Gay marriage hurts families. Actually, gay marriage helps them. Without […]

Are We Too Isolated To Fight the Pink-v.-Blue Battle?


Ask me five years ago and I’d have told you I’d be first in line to challenge gender stereotypes if ever I had kids myself. I minored in feminist cultural studies! I believe boys and girls are made, not just born! But sixteen months into parenting my boy/girl twins, I’m starting to wonder how I’ll ever ensure that […]

Childless by CHOICE, Get It?

Peoples Choice

I don’t want kids. Never have. I consider birth control the greatest invention of the 20th century and I’ve been taking it religiously for nearly a decade. No pregnancies to date, and in the rare event of one I’d be first in line at my local abortion clinic before that zygote even mildly resembled a […]

No Thanks, No Giving–Part 2

First Thanksgiving

In my first post about Thanksgiving the other day, I pointed out some of the uncomfortable facts left out of the mainstream history of this holiday. Another bit of historical amnesia is the linkage between the genocide of indigenous peoples and slavery. As Dan Brook pointed out in his 2002 Counterpunch piece “Celebrating Genocide,” “1619 marks […]

No Thanks, No Giving, Part I


For most people I know, Thanksgiving is not about celebrating Pilgrims or acknowledging the history surrounding the holiday. Rather, it is about spending time with friends and family, being thankful for loved ones, for having the day off work, and, of course, about stuffing oneself silly. Alas, while attending the recent National Women’s Studies Association […]

The Wars Come Home

Veterans day

For military families, the war front and the home front are, increasingly, one and the same. The trauma of war invades the lives of men, women and children every day, whether they’re active duty, veterans or partners and children of service members. The very absence of a loved one because of military service can cripple […]

How My Mama Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Mexican Independence Day


Because of what falls left of the hyphen in “Mexican-American,” I am often asked how my family celebrates Mexican Independence Day on September 16 (today). I have to confess that we never have. As native Californians, my family, just like everyone else on our suburban block on July 4th, merely lit up the ol’ barbeque […]

Selling Old-School Motherhood With the Groceries

Let's Go Shopping!

I actually might appreciate the Mom-on-the-go tips in the supermarket booklet, except I can’t get past the messages about dieting and motherhood.