Dear Men, Here is a New Kind of Fantasy

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Dear Men: Here is a new kind of fantasy. It is about a new kind of man. These men are born on the campus of an Ivy League college in New England. Or at a West Coast university. Or maybe at a football-happy school on the Great Plains. These men talk to each other. They […]

The Patriarchy Is Dead? Really?

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Hanna Rosin, who famously proclaimed “the end of men” in her 2012 book of the same name, is at it again. This time—in a Slate article adapted from a new epilogue to the paperback edition of her book—she claims that “the patriarchy is dead.” What should feminists think about this? “Accept it,” she says. I […]

A Guy Is A Man Is A Guy

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When a society is organized around the idea that one group of people is inherently better than another, it goes without saying that injustice and unnecessary suffering will be the main result, with patriarchy and male privilege being the oldest living example. Gender inequality is everywhere, from who cleans the house and takes care of […]

Feminism and “Real Men”

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[See Update at bottom] Can men be feminists? Absolutely. But recent media maneuvers and blogosphere blow-ups have put this confident answer to the test. For those outside the feminist bubble, here is the nutshell version: One self-identified feminist man with a history of confused intent and mental illness hijacked an extraordinary amount of attention. That […]

Opponents of Marriage Equality Want to Control Straight Men

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“Very few men outlive their fertility.” Who would have expected the argument against same-sex marriage to hinge on male fertility? But such was the case yesterday when attorney Charles Cooper uttered that statement to explain the meaning of “responsible procreation,” the central argument he advanced in favor of prohibiting same-sex marriages in his defense of […]

Men’s Manifesto 2012

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I’m proud to be a part of a growing movement—a multiracial, multicultural, global movement of men who are challenging male violence and outdated notions of masculinity. I have been inspired by, taught by and befriended by men across the world who have dedicated their lives to reducing male violence. Men and boys around the world […]

Is Fellatio Finished?

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This just in: Blowjobs are out. That news is via Esquire, which should be an authoritative voice on the subject. In the current issue, British author Geoff Dyer reports that in an informal survey of ten of his male friends, 80 percent preferred cunnilingus to fellatio–that is, they preferred going down on their female partners […]

Sh*t Men Say To Men About Street Harassment

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For too many women—as well as LGBTQ folks and men who don’t “blend in”—crossing the street, riding a bus or running in the park involve the risk of catcalls, groping, leering or even violence. Studies show that nearly 90 percent of women have been harassed in public by the age of 19. Not to mention, […]

10,000 Men Supporting VAWA

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Every 12 seconds in the United States, a man abuses the woman he has promised to love. Every two minutes in the U.S., a man rapes a woman–usually a woman he knows. But most men don’t rape; most of us don’t abuse. Yet we remain silent and consider these issues “women’s issues.”  As White Ribbon […]

Where Are Men’s Voices in the Fight for Women’s Health?

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Now that the public outcry has died down over the Susan G. Komen for the Cure’s ill-advised and short-lived decision to defund Planned Parenthood, there’s time to consider men’s role in this and other recent women’s health controversies. In the heated debates that have boiled up recently over birth control and abortion, the loudest male […]