Imagine a 4-year-old boy scraping his knee and starting to cry. What if his caregiver scolded, “Big boys don’t cry.” It still happens.
We must intervene before boys get the message to toughen up and harden their hearts.
Cornell fraternity men were once 4 years old. What were they taught about expressing their feelings, about bullies, about respecting girls—and themselves?
We spend billions responding to men’s violence and almost nothing studying where it starts.