Rape in Congo is a Men’s Issue, Too

7166808312_6e6d5eb626_zHere in Congo, so many of our discussions have been about the brutal sexual violence affecting women. We have heard heartbreaking stories of horrific violence and trauma that give you a new appreciation for human cruelty. And we have met so many people who give you hope—who demonstrate unimaginable resilience despite unbelievable trauma.

Just today, we learned that a 7-year-old girl was raped not far from Panzi Hospital, a renowned medical institution that my organization, Jewish World Watch, supports which is known for its cutting-edge surgical work to repair the bodies of rape survivors. During the discussion with our partner here, Dr. Denis Mukwege —a Nobel-prize nominee—I was struck most by how much of the response to this crisis is, understandably, focused on working with women to rebuild and recover. That work is essential. And JWW will continue to invest in these efforts.

But what about the men? And I don’t just mean the perpetrators. What about the fathers and brothers who shun these women, who do not allow them to seek medical attention? Who, in many cases, deny that these types of assaults even take place? When we talk about gender-based violence, are men relegated to the role of bystander at best, and perpetrator at worst?

Women who are able to get the medical support they need after a rape—a fortunate minority—often find themselves in an impossible situation after they leave the hospital. Many are stigmatized in their communities and never allowed to return. For others, the trauma that they experienced is ignored. The rape is accepted as a matter of fact with an expectation that the ordeal is in the past. They are expected to just forget it ever happened.

Will men help their daughters seek justice against their perpetrators? Will men hold their wives, with love and compassion, after they have been attacked? The answer is often no.

In Congo, men seldom seem to be a part of the conversation, leaving women to recover alone.

To be sure, there are exceptions. Yesterday, we spoke to staff at the Chambucha Rape and Crisis Center. They work within the community on sexual- and gender-based violence. We learned that there are increasing numbers of discussion groups for men, which focus on the role of men as protectors, countering the narrative of men as perpetrators and bystanders. There are other examples of effective programs that engage men in Congo in discussions like these. For example, the Sons of Congo program, which JWW also funds, has pioneered this approach by challenging men to think about their identities and their roles in the community as men.  The program has already reached at least 17,000 men, all of them hungry for the opportunity to educate themselves and their families.

As a man leading an organization that works primarily with women and children, I have focused during this trip on learning about what more we can do to change the culture of impunity, which contributes to rape and violence against women and supports the social norms of silence and denial in the home and the community. This has been a goal and focus of JWW’s since its initial mobilization in Congo, and is a goal to which I am more dedicated than ever. We must work together to foster open and honest discussion among men who can, indeed, become protectors. After all, rape is not a women’s issue alone.

Photo courtesy of Congolese refugees courtesy of Flickr user Graham Holliday licensed under Creative Commons 2.0

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Michael JeserJewish World Watch executive director, is traveling with four other JWW delegates in Democratic Republic of Congo’s eastern provinces. They are working with survivors of the country’s decades-long conflict, which has claimed nearly six million lives. They have been meeting with JWW’s partners on the ground, with whom JWW works to create innovative programs and projects that change lives and transform communities. For more information or to support any of these projects, please contact JWW at info@jww.org.

Comments

  1. BS Friedson says:

    This is sick! The whole culture is insane! Raping babies and young children is monstrous, and yet their culture condones it. Why,why, why???? This is the country that instigated a bloodbath several years ago. Is this something that can ever be understood?

  2. Men need to be part of the solution because they are the problem! I am always happy to see posts that hold men accountable.

  3. Mark Bershak says:

    Rape victims should be hugged, loved and reassured that their essentials value as a human being is undiminished. These are people who have been wronged. Punish the wrong doer, not the victim and don’t act like the woman’s dead body is the only proof that she didn’t want it.

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