Help Send Ms. to Women in Prisons and Domestic Violence Shelters

Out of sight should not mean out of mind—and heart. But the tragedy for women in prison is that it often does.

For the rest of us, this invisibility keeps us from realizing how much women in prison may resemble you and me. For example:

(Michael Coghlan / Flickr)

Most women in prison are not a danger to society. About 82 percent have been convicted of non-violent crimes. Often, they are suffering unfairly harsh consequences even for nonviolent crimes, like possessing or selling illegal drugs. And many of the women convicted of so-called murder have actually killed a violent partner in self-defense, yet not been allowed to plead self-defense. This real motive that would have been allowed in a non “domestic” setting.

This is part of the reason women and girls are the fastest growing incarcerated population in the United States today. Over the course of the past four decades, women’s state prison populations have grown more than 834 percent—more than doubling the rate of growth in men’s prisons. And the incarceration rates for women of color outpace their white counterparts by 100 percent: Black women are twice as likely as white women to be incarcerated.

Once in prison, women also suffer significantly higher rates of sexual victimization and violence by the staff who are supposed to protect them. At the less visible end of the spectrum, prisoners’ mental and physical health often deteriorates, and their most basic hygiene and reproductive needs—even access to tampons or pads—are ignored.

Knowledge is power. Learning such facts is a first step to action for us, and feeling seen is a first step toward hope and sanity for those inside. We at Ms. want women in prison to know they are seen and valued. And because domestic violence shelters can be almost as isolating as prisons—and often lack even libraries or any reading material, just as many prisons do—we decided to include women in those shelters in this program too.

That’s why we started the Ms. Prison and Domestic Violence Shelter Program. It is funded by charitable contributions earmarked for this purpose, and also by Ms. Community Members who buy an extra membership and subscription for a friend they don’t know.

And now, we send Ms. to 5,096 federal, state and county prisoners. That’s a fraction of the total, but it’s a number we’re very proud of and hope to keep growing.

We also send magazines to hundreds of domestic violence shelters. This year during the pandemic, we’ve done our best to increase the number of shelters we send magazines to.

That’s because domestic violence shelters across the nation have reported increasing numbers of women and their children showing up at their doors during the crisis. As a shelter in San Luis Obispo, Calif., where we send magazines explains:

“…domestic violence is spiking as folks are being forced to shelter at home with an abusive partner, they’ve lost support systems like their schools, and they are experiencing new stressors related to job insecurity and health fears. Violence is escalating and the need for our services is greater than ever before.”

Over the sixteen years since this program’s birth, we’ve discovered that even this small gesture of recognition, support and information means a lot. Women in prison often spend 17 hours a day isolated in their cells, with no reading material except The Bible, or with only books and magazines they must share with hundreds of other women.

Here’s what Deenna Smith wrote to us from prison in Chillicothe, Miss.:

“I read your article … about female inmates learning to code as part of The Last Mile [Fall 2019] … I wish we could receive training such as this. I once ordered a book on coding, but most computer books are banned in this facility. There are so many opportunities that we women miss out on because of the strict guidelines that are in place. In men’s facilities, the rules are more lenient.”

Deenna went on to write that when she is released, she wants to start her own magazine … to help other women in prison.

“I know I can make a big difference in the world,” she wrote. “And my inspiration comes from this magazine.”

It’s stories like Deenna’s that inspire us to build our Prison and Domestic Violence Program bigger, to reach even more women. And to reflect their reality in our pages.

For instance, Ms. has been reporting on one of the driving forces behind increasing incarceration rates among women: the cash bail system. Sixty percent of jailed women—often primary caregivers for their families—remain locked up before their trial simply because they cannot afford to pay bail (a median cost of $11,700 in the U.S.). This is a form of the debtor’s prisons that were eliminated in the 19th century.

Also data has shown that when a woman is unable to afford bail, she is more likely to be convicted, more likely to receive a longer sentence and more likely to end up with a lifelong criminal record. Many women also tend not to benefit from plea-bargaining simply because they cannot afford a lawyer. That’s exactly what happened to Deborah Burlingham, of Las Vegas, who wrote to us after receiving Ms. in prison:

“I recently read your Summer issue and thoroughly enjoyed every article. I especially was impressed with ‘Held for Ransom’ by Sarah Willets. I too was a victim of this practice. I am currently incarcerated for a DUI—no injuries, no property damage. My bail was set at $100,000 cash only! I remained there until my initial court date 33 days later. I was then transferred to prison. Reading and working out are my two periods of sanity every day. Keep up the good work of informing women about important issues.”

The Ms. Prison and Domestic Violence Shelter Program lets women on the inside know they are not alone. Every American should be ashamed that this country puts a greater proportion of its citizens in prison than any other nation on earth, because of racism, sexism and also because in many states, the Prison Industrial Complex allows corporations to build and run prisons for profit.

And our Program lets survivors of domestic violence who are now in shelters know it’s unfair for them to be deprived of home while the criminal is free. We must all work together against notions of “masculinity” and “femininity” that have turned the home into the single most dangerous place for women and children in this country.

Nothing can replace systematic remedies, and nothing can replace reaching out to women in prisons and shelters right now. If you would like the deep satisfaction of knowing you’re part of letting women know they’re not alone, please make a tax-deductible contribution to the Ms. Prison and Domestic Violence Shelter Program.

Nine-year-old Anabel, from Los Angeles, explains it best: 

“I am nine and my daddy got me a subscription (in my name) to Ms. magazine. I read my copy once I get it. My daddy and I have enclosed $12, $2 from me and the rest from my daddy. I think it’s sad that women go to jail for no reason and I want to help. Please enjoy the picture I’ve drawn.”

Art from nine-year-old Anabel from Los Angeles.

If you send a friend you don’t know a copy of Ms., it will have her name on it, and be something she knows will keep coming—hundreds of pages of words and images that link her to the world of women.

On the outside, the women’s movement brings us support, facts, creativity, humor and a sense of community. Pass it on.



Gloria Steinem is a writer, speaker and organizer and the co-founder of Ms. She is also active with the Women’s Media Center, Equality Now and Donor Direct Action.