Do We Hail Yale, Or Are The Men There Just (Bull)Dogs?

Last fall, the nation was shocked to learn that frat guys at Yale were parading around campus chanting “No means yes! Yes means anal!” Even more shocking was an apparent pattern of such ritual marches, a pattern that included a rally in front of the campus women’s center with a poster that read “We Love […]

Gay Bashing is About Masculinity

The tragic suicide of Rutgers freshman Tyler Clementi has led to a wave of national hand-wringing anguish about the daily torture and humiliations suffered by young gays and lesbians. An article in The New York Times expanded the conversation to include the stories of several other gay teens who recently committed suicide, such as Seth […]

Dispatches from Guyland: Best Places for Men

Where are the best places for men? Two surveys, ten years apart, have quite different, and quite telling, answers. Back in the September 2000 back-to-school issue of Men’s Health, the magazine ran a clever survey ranking the best and worst college campuses for men. Written by magazine founder Laurence Roy Stains, the article is less interesting for […]

This iPhone App Helps You “Man Up”

Nearly every day someone sends me some link to a YouTube video, a new commercial or a blog post that lowers the bar even further for men. In these media bits, we’re variously depicted as 1) emasculated wimps who need to “man up” by wearing khakis (has anyone told Levis that khakis are about the wimpiest pants going?); […]

Dispatches from Guyland

Twenty-five years ago, when I would ask the students in my classes who planned to have families how they expected to balance work and family life, the women would typically say something like, “We’re gonna love each other. It’ll work out.” And the men would say, “Huh?” The question simply didn’t compute. These days, when […]