The Bible, Biology and Bigotry

In 1964, when I was 13 years old, my family’s summer vacation consisted of a drive from our home in New York to the apartment my grandparents had just bought in Miami Beach.  That’s right, along with hundreds of other Northerners streaming south for Freedom Summer, my family decided that it might be a fun family event […]

Is Fellatio Finished?

This just in: Blowjobs are out. That news is via Esquire, which should be an authoritative voice on the subject. In the current issue, British author Geoff Dyer reports that in an informal survey of ten of his male friends, 80 percent preferred cunnilingus to fellatio–that is, they preferred going down on their female partners […]

Ah-nuld, DSK, Weiner–And Us

The beginning of summer has been quite eventful for us guys. Like Shakespeare’s “winter of our discontent,” 2011 seems to be shaping up as the summer of our disarray. From Charlie Sheen’s public meltdown to Weinergate, it’s been a steady parade of men behaving badly. The summer’s been a spectacle of the sordid. The revelations of […]

Dominique Strauss-Kahn and the Myth of Consent

The sexual assault charges against the now-former IMF president Dominique Strauss-Kahn–followed days later by revelations of a child fathered out of his marriage by California’s former governor, Arnold Schwarzenegger–has sent pundits scurrying to explain “why high profile men cheat,” as Time magazine so delicately put it. Alternately, in its “Week in Review” section last Sunday, […]

Do We Hail Yale, Or Are The Men There Just (Bull)Dogs?

Last fall, the nation was shocked to learn that frat guys at Yale were parading around campus chanting “No means yes! Yes means anal!” Even more shocking was an apparent pattern of such ritual marches, a pattern that included a rally in front of the campus women’s center with a poster that read “We Love […]

Men Speak Out About Sexist Coverage of Rape: A Call to Action

The following is a statement by an ad hoc coalition of men who work to prevent sexual violence. In the struggle to stop rape and all forms of men’s violence against women, it is time for men to leave the sidelines and get in the game. One important step we can take is to raise […]

The Men, And Women, Of Yale

Nearly thirty years ago, in a column in the New York Times Magazine, conservative firebrand William F. Buckley waxed nostalgic about his college days at Yale. He imagined a young Yalie today, at the now-coed, gender integrated, university, longing for “a fraternity house that wouldn’t end:” Someday, damn it, we’ll have a treehouse of our […]

Gay Bashing is About Masculinity

The tragic suicide of Rutgers freshman Tyler Clementi has led to a wave of national hand-wringing anguish about the daily torture and humiliations suffered by young gays and lesbians. An article in The New York Times expanded the conversation to include the stories of several other gay teens who recently committed suicide, such as Seth […]